[ That is the most productive response Crais could have helped for and has undoubtedly saved them both a lot of confusion and conversational circles. ]
The answer is that he was and it wasn't a burden. Dominance-Submission is referred to as power exchange. He gave you freedom from watching your own back, you gave him trust. Both of you have needs, both got met.
[He'd like to think it wasn't a burden. He'd like to think he helped Jon. On some level, he knows he did, he wanted to distract Jon...but then, hadn't he failed in being the one distracted instead?]
A good answer. One makes sense and is right but there's a piece missing here didn't say.
We didn't talk about it or plan it. It happened. I don't know if he needed that at all, might just've been a burden when he was already stressing out.
Guess next step is deciding if I want to feel like that again. Still shaken for it. Don't think it was bad, might even be good way stretching a muscle that ought be does. Don't know.
After that's the thought on whether I even want to try it with anyone else or if it was fine to happen cause it was him.
[A beat.]
This is a lot more than I meant when sending you. Sorry. But also thanks.
Fairly familiar is key. Grew up in a brothel, there were those with the specialty on both sides. Had Lux, taught me some of the rest or the 'modern' bits.
No one's sat me down for either, I wasn't meant to have involvement in the first and Lux only answered questions or did things with me as I wanted to try them. Can't ask a question I don't know to.
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notleavingquietly) wrote2037-07-18 11:23 pm
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The answer is that he was and it wasn't a burden.
Dominance-Submission is referred to as power exchange. He gave you freedom from watching your own back, you gave him trust. Both of you have needs, both got met.
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A good answer. One makes sense and is right but there's a piece missing here didn't say.
We didn't talk about it or plan it. It happened. I don't know if he needed that at all, might just've been a burden when he was already stressing out.
Is it an exchange if no hands were shook on it?
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As for whether it is a burden or not, I have no idea. I'm not him. Ask.
Use the answer for future decision making about this particular thing with your wings.
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Guess next step is deciding if I want to feel like that again. Still shaken for it. Don't think it was bad, might even be good way stretching a muscle that ought be does. Don't know.
After that's the thought on whether I even want to try it with anyone else or if it was fine to happen cause it was him.
[A beat.]
This is a lot more than I meant when sending you. Sorry. But also thanks.
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Though now it's my turn for a question. I thought you were fairly familiar with BDSM.
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Grew up in a brothel, there were those with the specialty on both sides.
Had Lux, taught me some of the rest or the 'modern' bits.
No one's sat me down for either, I wasn't meant to have involvement in the first and Lux only answered questions or did things with me as I wanted to try them. Can't ask a question I don't know to.
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I'm glad you came to talk to me. Keep doing that if you find more questions.
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