There you go, that makes more sense to me; you're big on trust and limits and such, putting yourself out there with six or seven people seemed like a lot.
I haven't met him. I'm sure the sex is great but you actually like when people you don't trust make you submit and like tie you up. I would have less than a good time. Unless it was just rough, that'd be fine.
I will occasionally let someone I don't trust tie me up, if given very, very good reason. No one has ever made me submit and if they did I would absolutely not enjoy it.
If I don't trust them and they're tying me up, it's likely to feel like they're making me submit.
Might not be the same for you but your limits are shaped different than mine. I'll let someone bend me over if they work for it or ask pretty, but they go for my hands and I'm flipping things faster than they can blink.
Oh. No. Sorry. I do trust Washington to do dominance and sadism right.
I don't trust him in much more general terms. I think he'd stab me in an ally, but not hurt me inside a scene.
He seems to use kink as a means of... controlling himself. That's something I'm familiar with and trust more than most to be very, very precisely correct in doing it.
before I came here, all the time. For everything. Career advancement. Information. Getting close enough to someone to murder them. Safety for myself. Safety for my brother. Anything that served me.
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notleavingquietly) wrote2037-07-18 11:23 pm
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Fairly.
With the caveat that you understand at least half of them are some sort of psychotic.
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Which means you can maybe see the difference between love and in love.
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And I do mean full time, all the time, and without a masochistic streak.
I think I know two of those in this city.
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Who's the other one?
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Do not engage lightly. the sex is fantastic, though.
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I'm sure the sex is great but you actually like when people you don't trust make you submit and like tie you up.
I would have less than a good time. Unless it was just rough, that'd be fine.
Still good to know.
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If I don't trust them and they're tying me up, it's likely to feel like they're making me submit.
Might not be the same for you but your limits are shaped different than mine. I'll let someone bend me over if they work for it or ask pretty, but they go for my hands and I'm flipping things faster than they can blink.
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And it's moderately insulting though I'll chalk that up to language differences since the rhythm of yours often catches me off guard.
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Sorry, I don't mean to imply anything untoward.
Just trying to wrap my head around submitting to someone you don't trust to do it right.
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I don't trust him in much more general terms. I think he'd stab me in an ally, but not hurt me inside a scene.
He seems to use kink as a means of... controlling himself. That's something I'm familiar with and trust more than most to be very, very precisely correct in doing it.
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ok
Yes that makes a lot more sense and is entirely fair. A few I'd trust with me but not with other things like basic safety concerns otherwise.
Is there anything that would make you submit to someone you didn't trust?
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Yes
[Probably.]
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before I came here, all the time. For everything. Career advancement. Information. Getting close enough to someone to murder them. Safety for myself. Safety for my brother. Anything that served me.
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Good
This is why you're the sensible one of my people
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Subjugated didn't make the list.
Sensible did.
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Also the sensible part.
Just you being unapologetically you.
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Especially for yelling at people.
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Next question?
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